2002Moshe Rabbenu, (our teacher) begins his valedictory address with the first parsha of Devarim. He's giving the final instructions before the reins of leadership are transferred to Yehoshua. In the course of describing the history of the land to which they are about to return, Moshe warns them in the following verse that they are not to provoke the descendents of Esav...
My Killer, My Brother
Then the Lord said to me: You have been skirting this hill country long enough now turn north. And charge the people as follows: You will be passing through the territory of your kinsmen, the descendants of Esav, who live in Seir. Though they will be afraid of you, be very careful not to provoke them. For I will not give you of their land so much as a foot can tread on...
Your Torah Navigator
1. Why are the children of Esav referred to as kinsman?
2. How is the word provoke defined here?
The Midrash in Devarim Rabba, sees the fact that the descendents of Esav are called kinsmen as significant. Esav's descendents have no spiritual connection with the Jewish people. They are pagans, and they are not privy to any revelation, but God has promised them a parcel of land and it is important that the descendents of Jacob honor that promise.
Subsequent verses permit our forebears to buy food, drink and supplies from them, but not engage in provocative behavior-even though they must have been seen as an army marching on a mission of conquest.
The Midrash also states that origins are important, because origins often create the potential for deep connection as well as deep enmity. It says:
Devarim Rabba (Lieberman) Parshat Devarim 22
Your kinsmen, the descendants of Esav, even though they are the descendents of Esav, they are still your kinsmen. Another verse echoes this sentiment by saying, "Your kinsman who hate you..." (Isaiah 66:5) Even though they hate you, they are your kinsman... And this sentiment is also echoed in the verse, "...and the outrage that will be done to your brother Jacob... (Obadiah 1:10) Even though he may kill you and plunder you, he is still your brother...
Your Midrash Navigator
1. What's the difference between fraternal hatred and hatred of one who is not related to you?
2. Which hatred has the greatest potential to be transformed into love?
3. Is the adage "You can choose your friends, but you cannot choose your family" resonate with this midrash? How?
In times of great strife, when kinsmen become brothers in name only, origins of relationships offer the potential for a way back, when they once shared something in common. The Midrash is teaching that these origins were given, by God and cannot be removed by human design. No matter what outrage people perpetrate, they cannot abrogate the potential for reconciliation, because they were not the ones who created the relationship. It is this fact that humbles us and makes us see the world as a place that existed before us and will exist after us, and the darkest moments between peoples will give way to the memory of being kinsmen once upon a time.
As we explore the three weeks and the nine days that recall the destructions of the Jewish people, we are reminded that someday these will be days of rejoicing. And brothers who have become enemies will be brothers once again.
By Rabbi Avi Weinstein, Director, Hillel's Joseph Meyerhoff Center for Jewish Learning.