What Parents Can Do for Their College Students



October 20, 2023

Adapted from UC Berkeley Hillel

We know the brutal terrorist attack by Hamas on Israel on October 7, subsequent war between Israel and Hamas, and impact on college campuses can be overwhelming for many Jewish students. Wondering how you can support your student through this incredibly difficult time? Hagar Ben-Eliezer, Berkeley Hillel Wellness Therapist, suggests the following strategies:


If your child calls you and can barely speak (sometimes through tears), witness and confirm their pain. Trying to solve or fix anything when someone is experiencing heightened emotions tends to add more stress. 

Sample Responses: 

Be Honest 

As parents, there may be an expectation that you will know the right way to do things or how to feel. This may be a time when you cannot explain the actions of the world or even how you feel. 

Sample Responses: 

Get Help When Needed

You are the expert on your children — you know when they are not ok. If your child is exhibiting any of the following symptoms, please seek out help for your child using the mental health and wellness resources below. 

If you are seeing any of these behaviors, encourage your child to get support by reaching out to these services: 

Crisis Text Line  

If you or your child are feeling increased anxiety, grief, or shock due to the recent devastation and loss of life, support is available. You are not alone. Text SHARE to 741-741 to connect with a live volunteer Crisis Counselor.

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline  

Free 24/7 support and resources for those in crisis and those who support them. 
DIAL or TEXT 988 

Local and State Resources

Find out if there is a local Jewish Human Services agency near you or use the SAMHSA agency locator to discover mental health organizations across the United States.